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How I Tied Male Rompers Into Honesty In Friendships



The bonds we have with the people around us are the most important part of our emotional wellbeing- which is why this article will be about another concept in friendship. This area of life is one that resonates with everyone, therefore exploring more into it is easy and relatable to all.

How a person exposes themselves emotionally to someone completely influences the nature of the friendship they share. When you think about it, it's sort of common sense- the people you share more with are likely people you are closer with. However, there's an element further that is significantly important yet not consistent in many relationships. The way we confide in someone is not just vital to an intimate friendship, but is crucial to our own emotional wellbeing. Being able to speak to someone about your own state of life and everything in it is absolutely necessary, and this is fortunately afforded to most people. People share things about themselves in all magnitudes, from elementary thoughts all the way to the intimate depths of feelings. Bringing this importance to the forefront of our friendships is key in building friendships as well as maintaining individual strength within our emotions. While this may be easier for some, and perhaps more difficult for others, realizing its significance reaps multi-dimensional benefits that simply can't be overlooked. In summary, placing a paramount on being vulnerable in confiding in someone is necessary for the friendship, but mainly for emotional wellbeing. This is a skill women are typically more proficient at than men, but it's important to understand it as a skill. This means that with habits and mindfulness around it, it can be developed further by both males and females. The stigma is gone from a man needing to be a nonvocal, emotionally bottled type. If male rompers are making way onto the fashion scene, being comfortable with talking candidly about whats on your mind to a close friend is easily achievable. It's possible that women come about this easier, but it still doesn't mean that this can't be pushed to progress this skill set and be comfortable in talking honestly about what's going on in your head. The liberation that this brings is indescribably freeing.

The next piece to this puzzle is honesty. This is a concept that means something to absolutely everyone, regardless of who you are. The reality is everyone has things that they either choose to leave out or alter in order to appease the people who listen. In other words, people either change the truth entirely or keep things to themselves because of the way they think people will react to the truth. This fear is infectious to our habits, and as with any habit, it can grow and become easier and easier to do until it is a trait embedded in our social structures. I'm entirely, one-hundred-and-ten-percent guilty of this. I spend so much time focusing on awareness of the feelings around me that I leave certain pieces of my feelings out of conversations in order to improve the way it's received. Just like any self-reflection I've had, I decided to challenge myself by exposing honesty in its entirety to those closest to me. And its because of those feelings that followed this by which the second part of this article was inspired by. The freedom and self-comfortability brought by being honest with my own emotions, feelings, and words are difficult to express; sheerly by the magnitude in which it positively impacted me. Challenge yourself to allow someone in on a version of yourself that is purely honest and unfiltered with everything you say. If you already share this with someone, expand on it by including this habit with other people you're close to. The way that this can positively infect the friendships around you is invaluable and can't be fully quantified into words. The contagious nature of honesty and genuineness will only strengthen the relationship, and the liberation within your own mind that accompanies it is a coveted, incredibly positive byproduct. Take the plunge, and get comfortable with challenging yourself. Your friendships stand to miss out on too much otherwise, and regardless of that you owe it to yourself to be free.

The main idea for this topic came from a close friend, and I thank you for the inspiration.

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  1. Man, I needed to read this years ago. Once you stop assuming what others think of you is when you can truly step out, be you, and let your creativity seep through. Love the articles - keep them coming!

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    1. Thanks for reading, what you wrote is also true. Being free to be yourself is something that should be experienced by each one of us.

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  2. Some of these words are too big for me but otherwise...another good article that was better than the last! Now I'm going to go buy a male romper...good sales advice =)

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    1. Thanks for the kind words, and I'll try to make mine easier to understand in the future! If you haven't already, like The Five You Need on Facebook which you can do right from this page! Thanks, it means a lot!

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  3. Wow, very nice. It made me think that what Jordan is saying is what Brene Brown, Social Worker and Motivational Speaker in the U.S. says in her books. She basically says that in a nutshell, our culture is afraid of vulnerability (to show our true selves to others) but that we can't really be happy until we are real with ourselves and others. She says "Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen". Jordan, keep writing these wonderful articles. It gives me peace that your generation has heart!

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    1. Thanks for reading! I'd love to check out some of her work. Thanks for the encouragement Tamara and I hope to have your support in the future!

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